Which sense would you chose to lose during lovemaking? A response.

I stumbled upon (not related to StumbleUpon) Prinze Charming’s blog today, and found an interesting article there, The Ultimate Sacrifice for Love; Makes Sense to Deny Participation, wherein the prinze asks, “Which of your five senses would you give up each time you make love to your lover?”

At first I thought that it would be an all-encompassing loss of the sense. If you chose sight, you would never be able to see again, ever. My answer to his question at this point in my understanding was to become a monk, live in a monastery and play video games for the rest of my life.

As I continued to read the article, I believe his intention is that you would only lose the sense while being intimate with your lover.  The thought of a loss of a sense only while being intimate is actually quite exciting… If I had my choice, I would want it to be a random chance of loss of sensation. The only one that I’d see as “too bad” would be the loss of the sense of touch. You’re not too likely to “get anywhere” if you can’t feel things, if you know what I mean.

For many people, the excitement of making love to the same person fades after a while. The excitement of discovering the curves of their body, the places that make them giggle, and the ones that make their hairs stand on end comes to an end after you have found them all, and can draw upon them as you wish. It’s one of the reasons that people cheat, the excitement of discovery is what drives people to do new things, or to do new things to new people.

With the random loss of a sense each time you became intimate with someone, your experience with them would change each time. Perhaps you lost your sight. Each kiss would be a surprise, a touch could come from anywhere and you would never know. The unpredictability of the experience could make things interesting and new each time. As long as it was not a permanent loss that effected my day-to-day life, I’d go for the roulette wheel of sense loss during intimacy.

If that’s “breaking the rules”, and I’m forced to pick one sense to lose every time I make love, I would go with taste. I feel like it’s probably the least important sense during intimacy, but I’m not really the type to involve food during “playtime”. Loss of sight would be a huge impairment, as I am an extremely visual person. Loss of hearing would be almost equally debilitating, sound is the primary method of performance feedback, and is extremely sexy. Touch would probably  be the worst though, without the feedback from your own body, how would you know if you were having a good time? Sure, you’d have the closeness, but you wouldn’t be able to feel it. No breath upon your neck, no wet kisses on your stomach, no pleasurable sensations from love making. Arguably, the loss of touch would impair, for men, your ability to even make love at all; for women, the emotional connection would still be there, but there wouldn’t be the feeling of closeness. I find it very difficult to believe that many people could have meaningful intimacy without the sense of touch. More research should be done on this subject. The sense of smell would not be a huge loss, but it would be noticed. The smell of your lover’s body, perfume or cologne is extremely powerful. Psychologists say that the sense of smell is very closely linked to memory, and that a scent can trigger powerful emotional recall. If you couldn’t smell your lover to help create these memories, there would be a definite loss.

To sum up: I’d either be a  Video game playing, kung fu fighting monk, a sensational(loss) gambler, or a tasteless lover.

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7 responses to “Which sense would you chose to lose during lovemaking? A response.

  1. Wow, thank you so much for going out of your way to make a response back to this article. Your response highlighted all the necessary key points to understand before you make a decision like this. I am glad to see you respond and share with others. That was greatly appreciated. I love the turn out of this article, and I hope I continue to write more inspiring articles that engage my audience to participate beyond the comment section. I will reblog your response and see how everyone else “feels” about your perspective. While we wait for feedback, mind if I join in? Grab an extra controller and sit back for a while.

    • Yep. Game of choice right now is College Wars. I’ve gotten 3 of the classes I need to unlock Spring Semester, and I hope that the boss for Intermediate Comp isn’t too hard. In all seriousness, I haven’t played a game that wasn’t on my phone since school started. It makes me a little sad, but it’s a sacrifice I’ve got to make, or I’ll just get sucked in to playing games and let school deadlines slip past me.

      • Ah, computer science. Nice. I wish you good luck on your application process for a “big kid school”. If you haven’t noticed my About Me yet, I can give you a few pointers and tips on how to fly through your studies. Nothing in life is easy, but you already know that by what I read. I am glad to see a hard-working young father striving for success at a personal and familial level. Balance the two with time management and you will have a bright future for the whole family. Best of luck. Deadlines are much closer than they appear.

  2. Reblogged this on Prinze Charming and commented:
    Truly inspiring response to my article, “The Ultimate Sacrifice for Love; Makes Sense to Deny Participation.” Thank you so much for going out of your way to respond beyond the comment section. Please, if anyone is interested, write a response as a blog post and I will be more than happy to reblog it for my other viewers to see. It’s always intriguing to find out what everyone else feels about my articles. Just “ping” me, and I’ll find out. Thanks again!

  3. I think I would go with sight. I think the loss of sight would force my other senses to become more acute due to a sudden shift of focus. It also doesn’t help that my eyesight is horrible, so I’m already putting more focus on my other senses.

  4. It would be a very tough choice – loss of taste would probably be the “easiest” to let go of …the loss of smell may not be as easy since it’s not just the smell of perfume or cologne you are giving up…there are pheromones that we “sense” through smell which is part of what scientist agree attracts us to our mates. However the Russian roulette version of sense loss would keep things unique each time since you wouldn’t know which sense would be lost thereby adding suspense and your other senses would definitely be heightened…fascinating thought!

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